A few weeks ago I was talking with a mom about being transparent. She was telling me about the book
Lies Homeschooling Moms Believe by Todd Wilson
She said that it talked about how as homeschooling moms we think that everyone’s house is clean, they sit down to dinner at the same time everyday, all the laundry is done etc. And we think we are the only ones that don’t have it all together. Most days I think having it all together is overrated. I mean where is the fun in being able to go to your dresser draw to find a pair of clean matching socks?? It’s much more fun to search for a clean matching pair among the 60+ socks that are in the sock basket! You know,the basket where all the unmatched socks go? The basket that sits, and sits and sits until someone decides that clean matching socks in their drawer isn’t as overrated as they once thought.
Then there are days where I would really like to have things all together and I try really hard for about a week. My personality is such that I am only consistent in being inconsistent. I’m not beating up on myself. I am, most days,just fine with how I am. Some days not so much.
But back to being transparent. As humans we are seldom transparent because we don’t want to be judged or thought ill of. No one ever says “Look how messy her house is.” in a good way. We like to hear that we have it all together. I know I do.
The truth is though I don’t have it altogether. And so today I will be transparent about my life.
A lot of days my couch looks like this
In fact the loveseat next to me is full of about 3 loads of clothes right now.
The living room can look like this:
But more often than not it looks like this:
I would like to say that I never ever raise my voice but my kids would tell you differently. I yell way too much.
I leave dishes in the sink and go to bed without any thought of them.
My tub needs to be cleaned and I likely won’t get to it today.
I don’t cook every night, sometimes my husband does and sometimes we just eat whatever we can find in the fridge.
I am almost always behind on laundry.
I don’t bake bread every week.
I cuss when I am mad.
I would rather knit than clean the house and a lot of times that is what happens.
My teenager and I don’t always get along.
The kids fight with each other.
I have unidentifiable items in the fridge.
You cannot see my bedroom floor.
I don’t dust weekly, I sometimes don’t dust monthly.
I do vacuum everday sometimes twice. Not because I love to vacuum but because cheerio crumbs stick to my feet. Remember clean matching socks are hard to find in this house.
I sweep everyday for the same reason as above.
I have fallen asleep in my clothes that I wore for the day.
I often wear my pajamas all day.
My littles have aversions to cothes and are often not worried about matching socks.
We have a toddler bed at the foot of our bed and it is used for holding things, not for a sleeping child.
You currently can’t walk into my walk in closet without having to step over something.
And the garage contains a lot of things none of them being a car.
There you go, my transparency for the week. I don’t have it all together. There are more things I could list but I will end here.
Don’t believe the lies!!!