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Posting now just in case we lose power through this ice storm we are expecting.

Washing clothes, running the dishwasher, playing some last minute Zuma Blitz.

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Mindful Parenting Fail

Mindful Parenting Fail

 

Today was not a successful day in the department of mindful parenting. It all started with a battle of the wills between my six year old and my fifteen year old. Emi(6yo) was on the computer and wanted volume up while playing a game. Aly (15yo) was watching tv to try to find out what was going on in Egypt and couldn’t hear it due to the sounds coming from the computer. (I was cleaning my room and did not have a clue what was going on until later.)

Aly asked her Emi to turn it down and she did. However, a few minutes later she would turn it back up which frustrated Aly. After this back and forth a few times I was yelled for.

With full disclosure I will tell you that I was aggravated at being interrupted. I just wanted to be able to clean my room. I did not want to referee what was one of the same stinkin’ issues we deal with on a weekly basis in this house. I did not enter the scene in the right frame of mind or with any measure of patience. Wrong thing to do.

As I was trying to sort things out in irritated tones something happened. Both of my girls tuned me out. Neither of them was listening to me because, honestly who wants to listen to an irritated, impatient individual who is obviously ticked about being there?  At this point what I should have done was say “I’m overwhelmed at the moment, let me step back into my room, get myself together and come back in .” Instead, when Aly in her frustration with my frustration, turned the tv up even louder I lost it.

I threw up my hands and said “Fine, if no one is going to listen to me then no one gets to watch tv or be on the computer.” I turned off both and left the room and stayed frustrated and mad for a while. 

This one moment, this choice to give in to the frustration led to a whole lot of other battles and upsets for almost the rest of the day. I can list out a whole bunch of reasons why this happened. We live in a small house, the tv and computer are in the same room because there is no where else for it to be, the jack for headphones does not work on our computer, we are all suffering from cabin fever, our sleep patterns are out of whack, they changed the star signs and now we don’t know how to act. Ok, the last one is far fetched but it sounds good.The bottom line is that no matter the circumstances, I had better options.

I can now think of a couple different ways I could have handled the situation. I could have sat down with Emi at the computer and helped her adjust the volume so that both parties were happy.  I could have offered for Aly to come to my room to watch our tv.  Either of those approaches would have been better than the one that I chose.

And even if I did those things I realize that there is still the chance that someone would not be happy with the outcome. I would still need to maintain my composure. My kids are counting on me to do that. I know I am human and I make mistakes but it is important for me to work on being more successful.

In Everyday Blessings: Inner Work of the Mindful Parenting by Myla Kabat-Zinn and Jon Kabat-Zinn they have a list titled “12 Exercises for Mindful Parenting” Number 8 reads as follows:

“Learn to live with tension without losing your own balance. In Zen and the Art of Archery, Herrigel describes how he was taught to stand that the point of highest tensioneffortlessly without shooting the arrow. At the right moment, the arrow mysteriously shoots itself. Practice moving into any moment, however difficult, without trying to change anything and without having to have a particular outcome occur. Simply bring your full awareness and presence to this moment. Practice seeing that whatever comes up is “workable” if you are willing to trust your intuition. Your child needs you to be a center of balance and trustworthiness, a reliable landmark by which he or she can take a bearing within his or own landscape. Arrow and target need each other. They will find each other best through wise attention and patience.”

I should have read number 8 today. The bolded part is my emphasis. This is where I went wrong. I came to the problem wanting to solve it as quickly as possible in the way that I felt was best. It did not work out. And not only did it not work out it set off a domino effect of sour moods and tons of melt downs. If I had stopped and viewed the situation as workable I am sure things would have gone much better.

Tomorrow is a new day though. Tomorrow, instead of trying to jump into a problem full force I am going to wait, listen and view it as workable. With God’s grace I can become the mindful parent I want to be and the one my children deserve.





A bowl

This morning I finished this project.

It is the first in a set of nesting bowls for Z for Easter. I washed it in hot water 3x sine I had three loads of towels to do today. It felted pretty well and I threw it in the dryer for a bit. Overall I am happy with the way it turned out. I will start the second one tonight after I wind the skein into a center pull ball.

I am thinking about dyeing some handkerchief silks so I can add one to each bowl. I have a few left from an order a made a while back.

These Past Few Days

These past few days we have dealt with, and a couple are still dealing with, a stomach bug. It really hit SiSi hard. This was her spot for the better part of two days.

There was tower building.

Reading

Laughter between sisters.

TV viewing

A rare photo of the teen…sort of.

She was watching this:

(The Colbert Report for those who aren’t familiar)
*Correction, this is the John Stewart show. She does watch both.

Computer time.

Craft Time

And then there was much practicing of the art of camouflage.

Can you spot the 12yo that didn’t want to be photographed?

Oh and that is our dog Mazie….she’s a chicken dog and that is a whole other post.

Yarn Along

Inspired by Ginny at Small Things

This is the first in a set of nesting bowls I am knitting for Z as an Easter gift. The pattern calls for bulky weight yarn but I couldn’t find any in the bright colors I wanted at my LYS. One of the awesome workers that was there had the idea of buying one skein of Cascade 220 and winding it in a center pull ball. That way I can knit two strands together without having to buy 2 skeins. It was a brilliant idea and I was going to budget for the yarn at tax time. However, my friend Rhonda had other plans.  Without me knowing she bought the four skeins I needed to make the bowls. 🙂  It went into hibernation when I started knitting the hat in my previous post. They both called for the same sized needles and so I had to rob peter to pay paul. I want to eventually have two sets of all sizes of circulars and DPNs. I tend to cast on in the midst of knitting other projects. I only have two projects on the needles right now but I have had four at one time. I will finish decreasing it tonight and felt it.

As for the book. I picked it up at the library last week when I was looking for books on homesteading. When I was in highschool  my Uncle Tracey and I always talked about moving out to Montana and buying a horse ranch. I knew nothing about horse, but he did. I was going to be a medical technologist and live in the vast open spaces. Neither of us wound up there. I have never even been to the state. So what does this have to do with the book? It is the story of a woman who did move to Montana with her husband and two sons. It’s about love, loss and living life to the fullest. I am enjoying it…picturing the scenes she describes and imagining what it would be like to be there. Maybe one day I will make it there.